"In matters of style, swim with the current; in matters of principle; stand like a rock." - Thomas Jefferson
Alright, we’re not exactly the types to play by the rules. In fact, breaking them every now and again can be quite liberating (and you know it’s true). But when it comes to wedding etiquette, so much of it tends to fall into the grey zone. Never fear, A and S have no qualms in breaking it down for you and we’re certainly not shy about it. This is not only for the hosts, but for all you guests out there whose refrigerators are covered in invitations galore.
Guest List – It’s your day, so really you should invite whomever you’d like to share the wonderful occasion with. It’s important to remember that if your parents and parents-in-law are throwing the shindig for you (aka footing the bill), they WILL have some say about who’s included on the roster (rightfully so). Just keep in mind, you NEVER want someone to receive your invite in the mail and think to themselves, “Ugh, I don’t want to go ” or “why was I invited?” If you think they might look at it like an obligation they wish they didn’t have, then they shouldn’t make the cut. It’s a wedding, not a sample sale.
Invitations – Send them out a minimum of two months prior to the big day (three months for out of town guests, especially the ones travelling across the country or overseas). Don’t send them out one month before the wedding, unless you’re attempting to shave your guest list and hoping people will have prior engagements already (if that’s the case, don’t invite them in the first place!)
RSVP’ing – As an invited guest to any sort of event, whether it be a shower, engagement party, rehearsal dinner or to bear witness to holy matrimony, as soon as you know if you’re able or unable to attend the function, send back your RSVP card. It takes very little effort to pop a postage paid card in the mailbox, but it makes a HUGE difference to the people planning the affair. The sooner the bride and groom have their guest list confirmed, the sooner they can advise all of their vendors and ensure a smooth planning process.
Plus Ones – Nowadays, it’s acceptable practice to invite single guests to attend solo, especially when you’re trying to keep the numbers (and costs) down. However, if someone is attached, meaning if they have a significant other (significant being the operative word), then you ought to invite them with their honey too. Now, guests listen up – it is not necessary to find some random on match.com just so you don’t have to sit alone throughout the slow songs, especially if you’re going to a wedding where your friends will be there. Nevertheless, if you know in advance that you will not know anyone besides the happy couple, and you’ve been given the option, it doesn’t hurt to bring a date to keep you entertained.
Punctuality – It’s vital, for all parties involved. We are all about being fashionably late, but the only person who should be making an entrance at a wedding is the bride! If the event is called for a certain time, show up 10-15 minutes early to err on the side of caution. That allows time for any unexpected delays, like running into traffic, getting a speeding ticket or looking for parking, plus you’ll get a better view of the ceremony by snagging good seats. This rule goes for the bridesmaids and groomsmen as well; if the couple asks you to be somewhere at a specific time, it’s your solemn duty to abide.
Hope these tidbits are helpful! TGIF!
Until next time,